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FLEETING MINUTES THAT MAKE UP MOMENTS
“Oh honey, you’re going to miss this.
They grow up so fast.”
I had asked for prayer from the ladies at church. Her words did not bring comfort, they brought guilt. All I could do was just stare and nod. Sheer exhaustion made my brain so foggy that my mouth wouldn’t form the words I wanted to say.
I’m that mom now. Writing blogs.
Warning mamas about time fleeting by. Telling them to cherish every moment.
But I remember.
After countless months of no sleep, I had little strength left. She cried all night long. Every night.
I cried all night long.
I cried because I was horrible and selfish.
I cried because I felt like a failure as a mama.
A failure because I had no patience left.
I just wanted the crying to stop.
I just wanted to sleep.
If I’m honest with you mamas, I don’t miss that. I miss every one of those baby moments, but not that.
“You’re going to miss this”... that’s not the answer any poor, sweet, exhausted mama needs to hear when they’re in the middle of a particularly trying time with their little one.
They need compassion. They need understanding. They need someone to tell them it’s going to be okay. They need a shoulder to cry on. They need someone to give them a break, make them a meal, allow them a nap, encourage them in God’s promises and help them to remember that they are not alone. He is always with them and He understands. They are not a failure. They are human.
And then they need to know that God gives strength when they have no strength left. That He is always by their side, holding them as they hold their little one. He wants them to know that they can cry out to Him, just as their little one cries out to them. He wants them to understand that even when they think they have no compassion, His compassions fail not. Lamentations 3:22
And in the morning, with tears rolling down her cheeks for the frustration she felt the night before, that mama will look into her baby’s smiling eyes and pure love will fill her heart to overflowing for her little one.
That moment is when she can find comfort in knowing that the love her heart holds for her little one doesn’t even come close to the love her heavenly Father has for her.
God is in that moment.
God is in every mama moment.
All the beautiful sweet baby moments and all the desperate, helpless, exhausted minutes.
He is always there.
He will never leave.
He will help you through.
He will give you strength.
He will give you compassion.
He will teach you to forgive yourself.
And one day, when your children have grown, when you realize how quickly time went by and how much you miss those baby years~
those desperate, exhausted minutes will be just that. Fleeting minutes compared to all the beautiful moments God allowed you with your child.
The desperate moments won’t define you mama, they will make you grateful.
Grateful because you will know that God was right there with you in every minute that made up the moments~
and that’s what made those moments