I'll be the first to admit it. I was a wimp when I was newly married. When I was sick, I wanted to be coddled. My mom was so good at it. My new husband was not. I soon learned that he didn't have a compassionate bone in his body. At one point I had to have a sinus procedure done and my nose was packed with gauze for quite a long time. When the Dr was finally able to take it out, it was an extremely painful procedure. I had to stay until I was no longer dizzy and when the nurse finally walked me out to the waiting room all I could think was~ "I just want someone to take care of me". My dear husband stood up, walked over, and in front of a waiting room full of people announced quite loudly~ "your nose looks like you could park a car up there". There have been many moments in my 31 years of marriage just like this one. I could choose to pout or be hurt, (and believe me, I was hurt) I could choose to cry and become bitter and angry or I could choose to forgive, to respect, to cherish and to show compassion despite rarely receiving any. I could choose to love as Christ loves and daily bring my marriage and my husband before Him. Valentine's Day is always so commercialized. Hope springs eternal for wives across the country with jewelry and candy in abundance. We as women can tend to wish we could have a husband just like the one Kay Jewelers found. But when we think this way, we tend to overlook all the reasons we fell in love with our own husband to begin with. Just a few short months ago Mike announced that he had bought me an anniversary gift. With hands behind his back and a huge smile on his face, he presented me with it and when I saw it, I laughed and I cried. It wasn't diamonds or flowers or candy. It was an Amope Pedi Perfect. I cried because I had told him almost 4 months earlier how nice it would be to own one. It was never brought up again, but he loves me and he remembered. It wasn't about the gift, it was about the heart of a husband who listens and loves. That meant more to me than any diamond. Ladies, marriage is work. There will be ups and downs. There will be hurtful comments made but there will also be beautiful moments. You might be in the hurtful or you might be in the beautiful but most importantly~you are in it. You didn't vow to love, honor and cherish as long as he did. You vowed to~whether he decides to or not~and you vowed it before God. If we are completely honest with ourselves, we've all had our share of the bad moments too. Myself included. I'm not saying that we should overlook some of the devastating issues that happen in marriages. That's another topic in itself. I'm just trying to point out that we can't let all the little things ruin the best thing. The love we have for our best friend and Valentine. This week, don't wait for your valentine to do something amazing for you. YOU do something amazing for him. Purposely pray for him every day. Get out your wedding album. Reminisce. List all the things you love about him. Show him how precious he is to you. Rekindle the love story you both wrote together. Remember that first look, that first date, that first kiss. Kay Jewelers has nothing on you.