Mom’s Fear Of Failure

Have you ever thought about who helped Adam and Eve raise their kids? I mean, let’s get real here. No Bible, no books, no TV, no church setting, social media or podcasts. Not even parents who had been through it before and could give advice, or babysitting services, or just a shoulder to cry on. Nada. Zilch. Nothing. Just Adam and Eve.


And God.


How often do we forget about God in the mix. We run to all those other things on our journey of the perfection of parenthood, but often forget about the most important One we need to run to.


Whether it’s questions about pregnancy, labor and delivery, terrible two’s or the horrible teen years. Whether it’s tears caused by an empty nest due to college or marriage, or tears due to a wayward child.


We feel lost in the questions and uncertainties. We get fearful or fretful and we just want help. Somehow in the quest to be the best version of mom we can be, we forget to go to God first and we run to those who can say~
“Been there, done that.”


Do you realize God is the ultimate parent that can say “Been there, done that”? Look at EVERYTHING He has gone through with His children. 2 Peter 1:3-4


You want to know something else we often overlook? Despite having complete, unfiltered access to God and all His wisdom, despite not being influenced by the distractions of this present world~somehow Eve’s first born was still messed up.


And mama. That’s not on Eve.
And it’s not on you.


It’s a result of sin.


The reality of that can leave a mama feeling pretty helpless, if not for the fact of one thing.


God is still in control.


You might believe you have everything under control because you have read all the right books and listened to all the right podcasts and followed all the right people on social media. You might think you have it all under control because your child is in every church service, you pray with them and read the Bible to them daily. You do all the right things.


But you are not in control. God is.


Does He want us to do our best and strive to raise children who honor and glorify Him? Who love Him and truly know Him? Does He want our children to have a relationship with Him?
Definitely.


But He never wants you to forget that He is the One in control. Ephesians 1:11 Not a manipulative control, but a control with our ultimate good in mind. A control spawned from love, grace, mercy, forgiveness, comfort and peace.


Sin is real. It’s hard and it’s scary and it’s strong. Especially when it involves our children.


But God is stronger. He knew your child before the foundation of the world was ever laid. Before sin had ever cursed it. Before Eve’s eldest ever messed up. And all along He has had a plan for your children.
Ephesians 1:4-6


God’s ultimate plan is the salvation of all mankind. He can use your children for His glory and that very purpose.
2 Peter 3:8-9


The irony in the story of Eve’s firstborn is that he had the wrong heart attitude. He wanted to do things his way. He wanted to be in control of what he gave to God. That’s a powerful lesson to us as moms, because we are still doing that today.


The best thing we can do is to let go of that grasp of control we have on our children and hand them over to God. It might seem like a risk we aren’t willing to take. Our children are our everything.


But God is so much more.
And sometimes as parents, that’s a place we aren’t willing to go to.


Love God more.


Whatever stage of motherhood you are in right now, determine to go to God above all else. Pray over your children. Read scripture to them. Take them to church. Don’t get discouraged. Remind yourself daily that despite everything that could go wrong and might go wrong, despite the strong curse of sin~God is stronger and His promises to us will never fail.
Psalm 73:26


One of the sweetest promises we can cling to as mamas is this~All things work together for the good to them that
LOVE GOD. Romans 8:28


It’s not on you mama.
Do your best.
And in the moments you fear you have failed, remember~when we truly give our children to the Lord~
It’s all on God and He’s got this.


Love those babies.
Love God more.