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THE STRUGGLE OF OUR IRRITATING HUSBANDS
I’m blessed with great in laws.
We’re all able to laugh together about the less than perfect traits that we possess, but there are times that I can let it get away from me.
They know all the amazing qualities my husband has, but they also know many of the “not so great” qualities, and if I’m not careful I find myself listing all the things he does that drive me crazy.
I know exactly why I do this.
He is a carbon copy of his dad, so his mother can relate 100%.
Just recently I was with a group of ladies comparing notes on their husbands. Every part of me wanted to join in and list some of the things Mike does that irritate me.
But then I stopped myself and in my heart I asked myself “why?”
Why did I feel the need to complain? To bring up my husband’s shortcomings?
I realized it was only because I knew I would be validated in my complaints.
And I knew that was wrong.
Why do we as wives, as women, as humans do this?
Don’t join that bandwagon ladies.
Don’t be pulled into a conversation and deceived into thinking it’s okay to start listing off someone else’s traits that you find irritating, especially not your husbands.
Because that’s never okay.
Stop and think.
For every thing that irritates you, I guarantee there is something your husband does that’s amazing.
We just need to open our eyes and see it.
Replace the negative by focusing on all his positives. I Peter 4:8
You will surprise yourself when you really, truly start working on that because you will find that you are married to Mr. Wonderful, and maybe even fall a little more in love with him all over again.
So, I bit my tongue and I looked over at him and I realized what a really awesome husband he is. I decided that the next time I’m tempted to complain to others, I’ll just talk to God about it. He usually has this way of showing me that I can be pretty irritating at times too.
Recently, while at the airport I watched 2 sweet, elderly gentlemen. Both got up and bought their wives a parfait and brought it back for them. The wives took them without a second thought.
We as wives take a lot our Mr. Wonderful does for us for granted.
Notice the small stuff and be thankful. Stay out of the complaining conversations and love on that man God gave you.
And occasionally vent, but only to God or your mother in law. 😉
We all need to vent from time to time.
Besides God, she truly is the only one who understands the struggle.
And then let her know how much you love and appreciate that son she gave you.
*side-note~ I highly recommend NOT complaining to your own parents. And to all you mother in laws reading this~ allow your new daughter to to ask for advice (aka vent 😂). Your son isn’t perfect and she could use the mama wisdom you have, instead of the criticism you might be tempted to give.
But that’s all a post for another day 😉